Message from the Principal – Issue 33
Prayer for All Saints Day
Dear God, thank you for the example of the Saints.
I desire to join in their company, worshipping you forever in Heaven.
Please help me follow their footsteps, and yours, Jesus Christ.
Please help me to conform myself to Your image, seeking Your will in all things, as the Saints did.
Please help me to devote myself, and all that I do, to Your glory, and to the service of my neighbours.
All Saints and All Souls’ Day
All Saints Day, November 1, the day on which Catholics celebrate all the saints, known and unknown, is a surprisingly old feast. It arose out of the Christian tradition of celebrating the martyrdom of saints on the anniversary of their martyrdom. When martyrdoms increased during the persecutions of the late Roman Empire, local dioceses instituted a common feast day in order to ensure that all martyrs, known and unknown, were properly honoured.
All Souls’ Day, November 2, also known as the Feast of All Souls, follows All Saints’ Day (November 1). Both days mark a period for some churches, including the Catholic Church, to remember the saints in Christian history and to pray for people who have passed away. All Souls’ Day is traditionally a time for the Christian community to remember deceased family members and friends.
From My Readings……
Keeping our children well
During this time of the year it is important to reflect on the mental and physical demands we place on our children. It is important to keep in mind that exhausted, stressed and depressed children and frantic parents desperate to make their children succeed, is a worrying aspect of modern parenting which focuses on anxiety about children and over-identification with children’s performance. These harried children are more likely to suffer from profound feelings of insecurity and anxiety in later life, no matter how successful the after-school tutoring, fish oil tablets, baroque music and homework done by parents have made them. We need to ask ourselves when does normal parenting help and support, become a takeover with the underlying message to children that they are not clever enough to stand on their own two feet and do things themselves? Experts offer some advice which may come as a relief to parents as well as children. It is important to remember we need to ensure balance in all we do for ourselves and our children.
It is important:
To appreciate children as they are.
To ensure basic warmth exists between a parent and a child – listening, words of empathy and laughter.
To stand back a step. Support, applaud and assist, but don’t hover anxiously like a ‘helicopter’ parent. Parents don’t need to become over-involved to the point of obsession in their children’s academic, sporting performance or relationship development.
To keep our expectations high, but realistic. Accept that most people are average, yet still manage to lead happy, productive lives. Good behaviour and manners, a positive attitude and conscientious work habits will help most children to do well at school and in life.
To reassure our children that they can’t be good at everything. Then give them the space to discover and develop their own strengths. Admire the achievements of other people’s children without trying to make your children emulate them – or feel inadequate if they can’t.
To understand that discipline is vital, but doesn’t just mean punishment. Be consistent – that helps children develop self-control. Live according to the values you preach to them.
To spend time together. Eat your evening meal together as often as possible. Involve your children in as many rituals as possible – worship, sports, visits to grandparents, birthday celebrations and family get-togethers.